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| The following question was posted in a recent issue of Connections — the free newsletter for Hermes' Web Community members. Click here to receive your FREE monthly issue! “My question is really more of a confirmation of my understanding in how Hermes' Web illustrates addiction. The difference between someone who uses drugs and never acts out violently during 'the flip' and someone who uses and becomes a monster, to whatever degree, lies in the stability of the connection between the ego and the core, whether or not the addict is aware of what's in the core when he is sober. Is that correct?" |
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| Response From Jerry Fjerkenstad, MA, LP |
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| Yes, essentially. When there is no connection between ego and core, the flip is much more likely, especially when fueled by a disinhibitor like drugs. When there is a good connection between ego and core, it's far less likely you'll even see a flip. A flip allows the core the take center stage. A relationship with the core means the core is in play, its needs and perspectives are considered in one's behaviors. The estrangement between ego and core and the lack of relationship magnifies the core's need to get airtime. Also, estrangement means it is more likely the core will remain contaminated and thus, during a flip, things would be messy. The flip would carry riders such as anger, rage, and vengeance. Those who have done more work tend to open like the Hoberman Sphere, except more slowly, without the jailbreak. They tend not to flip to the other side. Also, an addict may actually be in the core much of the time and be comfortable there, especially when intoxicated or altered. All in all, the more work a person has done to decontaminate his or her core, the less likely the flip will be violent, should it happen. |
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